Nov. 21, 2022

My "Aha Moment" About Arguing


I don’t have to attend every argument I’m invited to - WC Fields

Ah holiday season! At least for us in the northern hemisphere we're coming into the season of office get togethers and holiday functions. Fun, fun fun! That is until we get dragged into an argument that we hadn't planned on or started.

Are you anything like me? You find yourself getting hopelessly locked into a heavy debate or a difference of opinion, and try as you might you just can't let it go? So you stand your ground and don't give up until your point is heard and felt, twice over.

And then as soon as it's over, you walk away regretting the whole exchange and kicking yourself for even engaging like that in the first place. So frustrating, am I right?

So before you engage in an unhealthy back and forth with that one colleague who just knows how to push all the wrong buttons, I have some advice that may help and it's all in the quote above by WC Fields.

Yes my friend, it may be news to both of us but we don't have to attend every argument we're invited to. Plain and simple.

The art of walking away or changing the subject may reign supreme in those moments when we choose to not engage and place our own mental wellbeing, sanity and stress levels, above any petty point we may have wanted to make.

So let's not accept those invitations to argue, let the other person marvel at the restraint and grace of which we chose to conduct ourselves. 😉