Live Life on Fire: Redefining Success and Joy, A Conversation with Intuitive Business Coach, Lynita Mitchell Blackwell

Debra Coleman [00:00:10]:
Well, hello, you, and welcome back to another episode of Have A Seat, Conversations with Women in the Workplace podcast. I am your host, Deb Coleman. My friend, I am so excited for today's episode because in today's episode, we will be diving into something truly transformative with my special guest, miss Lanita Mitchell Blackwell. Lanita is a powerhouse life coach as you will soon find out. She is an author and the inspiring mind behind live life on fire, which is a guide designed to help us embrace happiness, joy, and success from the inside out. She brings a refreshing perspective that challenges us to look beyond the typical markers of success and instead focus on what really makes us feel fulfilled and purposeful. In this conversation, Lanita shares her insights on living authentically, pushing past self doubt, and aligning our lives with what matters most, my friend, with what matters most. We'll explore her strategies for developing intuitive intelligence and how we can apply these principles as women navigating multifaceted careers and responsibilities.

Debra Coleman [00:01:31]:
Hello. So if you're ready to fuel your journey with purpose and set fire to limiting beliefs, you will not want to miss this episode. So without further ado, here is my conversation with miss Lanita Mitchell Blackwell, speaker, best selling author, and intuitive business coach. Alright. Well, here we go. Another wonderful conversation in the Have A Seat virtual living room. Joining me this week is none other than miss Lanita Mitchell Blackwell, speaker, best selling author, and intuitive business coach. Lanita, I am so excited to have you here.

Debra Coleman [00:02:08]:
There is so much to discuss in terms of women in the workplace and finding our you know, just start getting in touch with what we want these days. And so I appreciate you having this conversation with me and taking some time to share your expertise and knowledge.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:02:22]:
Absolutely. And thank you so much for providing such a wonderful platform for us to come together and have these awesome conversations.

Debra Coleman [00:02:30]:
Agreed. Agreed. And it's only with the help of of coaches like yourself and advocates like yourself that we're having more of these conversations. That's one thing I really have to I noticed since 2020 is that women are like, you know, hello. I'm here. Hear me roar more often, and I love it. So that's great. That's good.

Debra Coleman [00:02:48]:
Oh, well, let's see. Before we get into the nitty gritty of all the things, why don't we just take it back one step? And, Lonita, if you don't mind me asking, why the direction for you, to intuitive coaching or lifestyle coaching? Did you feel maybe there was something missing in the coaching space that maybe you felt compelled to fulfill, or why this direction for your in your own personal journey?

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:03:16]:
Yes. And the answer is actually the last few words of your question, my personal journey, that once I shared it with people, I realized was not just personal to me, but for many people, particularly women who were told that if we worked hard, that we would be successful and we would live happily ever after the end. But that never happened because we would work hard, and we had all of these awesome accomplishments, recognition, promotions, and all of the beautiful toys and trinkets that come with success. And yet there was still this void within this longing for something more. And in my personal experience, what I was doing to try and fill that void was just working harder and longer. I have accomplished everything I ever wanted in my life. I'm an attorney, a CPA, as well as a coach, and I have run a media company that had and multiple bestsellers under my belt as a publisher, and yet there was still more. And it was not until my daughter, who's at that time was 6 years old, found me passed out in the middle of the floor from exhaustion.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:04:35]:
And I am so grateful. She did not realize that I was out and couldn't move because I was that tired. She thought I was just sleepy. And so she got one of her blankets from her bed, her Disney princess's blanket, and she put it on me. And she got one of her little pillows and put it under my head and she kissed me on the forehead and said, good night, mama. And the only thing, Deborah, that I had strength to do was to say good night, baby. I couldn't get up and put my child to bed. And that's when I knew that something had to change.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:05:09]:
But you know how you'll know that something needs to change, but you're not sure how to go about it, and you are embarrassed, afraid to reach out to the people in your circle and ask for help. And so you go back to what you know. And that's that's what I did. And it wasn't until I got very ill, I developed stage 4 endometriosis and had to have a series of progressively horrible surgeries that I was like, Sound the alarm. I've got to do something. And so I started working with a performance coach, Rowena Silveira Beck. And she took one look at everything that I was doing, and she was like, we gotta scale this down. Because when I wrote it all down, Deborah has 7 pages, single space of roles and responsibilities.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:06:05]:
And she was like, we gotta get this down to 2. And we did. It took 2 years to do it. And during that journey, I was healing both internally as well as externally. And people ask me, what what what are you doing? Because I look better. And I just told them, and then they started sharing their stories with me. And some of them, thankfully, did not have the illness to the extent I did, but the migraines were there. The fibroids were there.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:06:37]:
The mystery illnesses were there. The aches and pains in the joints, they were there. And and that's when I realized that this is something that we need to talk about. And so that's when I started doing the intuitive business coaching. And that was when I started working with people, mostly women, but I do have a few men and looking at their entire lives. So the personal, as well as the business and professional, and coming up with a plan on how to de stress and live a beautiful and excellent life rather than a perfect life.

Debra Coleman [00:07:17]:
I love that. A beautiful and excellent life rather than a perfect life. That sounds much healthier.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:07:24]:
Oh, yes. Yes. It allows for grace. And in a sliding scale, realizing that what is good for us right now, I'm 48, is hopefully better than what it was when I was 28, and we know it's gonna be better at 58. Right? Mhmm. But in between those times, there are gonna be ups and downs. And the only person whose standards that we have to live up to are our own. And once we get to that place, then we have the grace that we need to make the adjustments that we need on this journey and have some fun.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:08:06]:
You know?

Debra Coleman [00:08:07]:
Yeah. Have some fun. Let's not forget that. That is so true. It's I'm glad you brought that up because you do talk about, defining our own standard of success, which can be difficult in a world that, you know, values titles and status and achievements. I mean, I'm talking look at all that you've done. Right? I'm sure. But so what advice would you give to us when if we're feeling that pressure to measure up to those external definitions of success?

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:08:42]:
Yeah. So the first thing that I would tell you is that instead of trying to be happy, focus on being joyful. And the difference between those things is that joy is an inside job. So when we think about happiness, we're always looking to the external. We're happy when our best friends come into town and we can run all over town. Right? Have a good time together. But then we're sad when they go. So that means that something outside of us has made a decision as to what our emotional state will be at any given time.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:09:21]:
Whereas when we are joyful, no matter what is going on, there is a part of us that is still grateful for the things that we have, whether we've accomplished big things, quote, unquote, big things or not, whether we have a lot or a little. We know that there is always something to be grateful for, and therefore, we have a well within our souls that continues to replenish no matter what. We also have really clear internal guidance as to when we need to sit down and to rest, when we need to disconnect and unplug, and when we just need to sit in silence. We don't always embrace the things that we need for ourselves because most of us were taught, if you take care of everybody else, then your needs will be your needs will be taken care of. Mhmm. And when that didn't work, we internalized the blame. But the truth is that was never gonna work out. You have to take care of yourself first so that you have the strength to take care of anything else outside of you.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:10:39]:
And so that is the difference between living a joyful life and living a happy one.

Debra Coleman [00:10:44]:
Oh, so deep there. Because if before you said that, if you were to ask me what's the difference between being happy and being joyful, I would say there is none. But there really is. There really is. It's almost reminiscent of that, you know, saying, put your, you know, put your life mask on first or your oxygen mask on first.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:11:05]:
That's exactly right. When you fly. That's right. Right.

Debra Coleman [00:11:08]:
Yeah. When you fly. Yeah. Exactly. And we're flying through life here. We're some of us are building the airplane as we're flying it, quite frankly, but, you know, we're getting there. Okay. That's fair, though.

Debra Coleman [00:11:18]:
So what would you say to a woman who's who's listening right now saying, okay, Lanita, I I feel you. I'm I'm I'm think I understand. However, I am facing a make possibly making a change in my life or in my career life, but I'm afraid that it might disrupt others' lives. And so I think I'll put myself second, or I think I'll put myself I'll just hit pause because I don't wanna I don't wanna be a disruptor for others.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:11:48]:
You know? You do. Yeah, Deborah. And that is a fair question. For most of us, it is the woman who is in charge of the family, making sure everyone is in good shape. And even on our jobs, there is normally like a a mama bear somewhere who's making sure everybody is on a personal level in a good position. Right? And so we take those things into consideration when we're making any changes in our lives, particularly the big ones because we see them as seismic. We know that it's going to set off a tidal wave across the entire we feel like it's the entire hemisphere, right, but but within our lives. And so what I would say to you is first, if you were to take care of yourself, there are a few things that will happen.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:12:44]:
Number 1, you would be joyful and happy. Mhmm. That's number 1. Number 2, you would set an example for people in your circle of how to do that for themselves. Number 3, you would have an opportunity to show people how to treat you, And it would be a good example of treating you as coming first as treating you with dignity and respect. And the fact that your time, talent and treasures matter. A lot of times people will take us for granted as always being there, as always being reliable and relied upon when we do not make changes that candidly shake things up a bit. You know, sometimes you have to keep people guessing.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:13:36]:
They can't you really do. If you, if you really want to get the best out of life, you, you cannot be in a space where you're always making decisions from a place of fear. Now, of course, there are exceptions to everything. If you have a person in your life who is relying upon you and will be for the rest of their lives, like special needs, children's, adults who are not in a position to care for themselves. You do have to take that into consideration. But 90% of the adults on this planet, they can take care of themselves if given the opportunity to do so. And we rob ourselves and them of the opportunity to do that and to be self sufficient. Because my mom used to say something that, you know, at this point in life, I I see the truth of it.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:14:33]:
None of us came here to stay. And if we are always enabling other people and not helping them to stand on their own 2 feet, but rather helping them to continue to rely on us, then we are not preparing them for the day that we're just not here anymore.

Debra Coleman [00:14:52]:
Mhmm. Powerful. Wow. That is so true. Oh, man. Yeah. I mean and it's interesting as I'm hearing you talk that for it's sad to me that this does come up for women. As you said, many many of us are head of household or at least, you know, a head lead decision maker, because I don't think men are having these same conversations.

Debra Coleman [00:15:14]:
You know? So our male counterparts are very like, I'm going this way. You're either with me or against me. Let's go. You know? And women are like, okay. You're either with me or against me. But if you don't like it, let's hold a meeting. Let's hold a committee. Let's find out what I can do better.

Debra Coleman [00:15:27]:
How can I make it easier for you for me to go this direction?

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:15:36]:
But, you know, we grew up watching our mothers, our our sisters, our aunts, women in our communities doing that. And so we just took that on Deborah and said, well, this is what it means to be a woman. Well, well, what if we step back from that and said, you know what? I'm going to create a new definition of woman for me.

Debra Coleman [00:15:58]:
Thank you. Yeah.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:16:00]:
Now, if that all of that activity makes you happy, then great. But once you are done with running all around the world, come see me. Come see Deborah.

Debra Coleman [00:16:14]:
Exactly. Exactly. Exactly. Oh my. Okay. Well, to be fair, so if if we are facing making some changes in our lives that will bring us true joy and happiness and that we know just instinctive with well, intuitively, to borrow you, that this is the direction we need to go. Does it behoove us then? Is it is it a form of being proactive to then maybe I joked about having a committee, but maybe bringing others in on that conversation. Like, gather the family around.

Debra Coleman [00:16:45]:
Listen listen, loves. This is what mom's thinking of doing. I want everybody to be aware. Like, is it worth having those conversations? What are your thoughts on, like, getting buy in to those in our orbit?

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:16:57]:
So it's worth having the conversation to allow people to know what is going to happen. Okay. Right? So you, my loves, do not sit your family down and say, I really think it'd be a good idea if you cleaned your room. No. You go in and you say, you're gonna clean this room today, right here, right now. You assign tasks to be done around the house, like taking out the trash and laundry and dishes. This is one of those times. I need you to put on that same armor that you do when you're running your household.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:17:32]:
This is part of you running your life household, and you have to set the tone for how things are going to be. You are important. And if you treat yourself with import, then those people around you are going to have to do the same thing or they'll fall away. Mhmm. And it'll make room for other people to come into your life who can respect and value you.

Debra Coleman [00:17:59]:
Mhmm. And support that joyful journey.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:18:03]:
Absolutely. Mhmm. Mhmm.

Debra Coleman [00:18:06]:
That's a good point. I think we maybe unknowingly surround ourselves by saboteurs.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:18:12]:
We absolutely do. Last year, I took a course in positive intelligence, and they ranked the saboteurs, 1 to 7. Oh, boy. And, with the the primary one being the judge. And I think that many of us have that little person sitting on our shoulder just trying to tear us down, not realizing that those saboteurs are there to protect us, but they have gone haywire because they've gone unchecked. And so the process of living an intuitive life, one that is seeking success through joy, peace, and fulfillment, checks that saboteur. So it's not like they won't always be there, but you'll be able to reprogram them so that the things that they're saying more as a corrective action, like navigation, rather than always putting you down and trying to keep you in one place. Mhmm.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:19:15]:
We have to understand when there are people in our lives, and sometimes we're the people in our own lives who are doing that, it's because this is a familiar environment, and we know what to expect here. Once things change, we don't know what's going to happen. We don't know how people are gonna react, and there is fear from that unknown. But there's no reason for that. You are fully equipped to live a life that is good, that is joyful, that is peaceful, that is loving, and that is just for you.

Debra Coleman [00:19:52]:
I'll, drop the mic. I mean, that's okay. End it here because those are the words we need to leave this cup. No. That is so powerful. So powerful, Anita. Well, is that well, I you mentioned intuitive intuitive living intuitively and intuitive intelligence. Can you expand on that a bit for those who may be unfamiliar with the term?

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:20:13]:
Absolutely. So it is based on your intuition. So think of it as your 6th sense. So we don't forsake the other 5, hearing, seeing, smell, touch, feel. Right? But we incorporate that 6th sense, the one where we just get a gut feeling. That's your spirit talking to you. And the more you listen to it, the stronger it will become until the place where you trust it, regardless as to what the other 5 senses are saying. And all of us have had an experience where when we have allowed that sense to blossom and direct us, that we have gotten a result that benefited us tremendously.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:21:00]:
When we've been on the road and our navigation on the car is telling us to turn one way, but we just have this feeling that we need to turn the other. And we do when we look in our rearview mirror and there's an accident right behind us That would have probably involved us if we had listened to the navigation. Or when you get a feeling to just call someone and y'all have not talked or the last time you did, it was a good conversation and and they need you. Their lives are falling apart. There's something that you can do without jeopardizing your own peace of mind to help them. That is your intuition. That is your intuitive intelligence. And we have been taught to be foe to focus on facts and data.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:21:50]:
And I'm not saying that you shouldn't. I'm a I'm an accountant and a lawyer for goodness sake. So, you know, I I get that. But I'm saying that there is something beyond that, that if you tap into it, it can help you to be the best accountant, lawyer, teacher, doctor, person that you could be.

Debra Coleman [00:22:13]:
That's strong. That is strong. And a bit a bit fearful because there's many of us that, oh, I wanna trust my intuition, but I feel like it's let me down a time or 2. And now I have, like, 80% faith that I know what I'm doing, you know, or trust in that.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:22:27]:
Oh, I I understand because sometimes your intuition will lead you to do things that, honest to goodness, look a little weird, and they are very uncomfortable. And sometimes, you you think that you are seeing the results of what you would have done, and you you feel left out. You feel like you missed something. But if we take the perspective, Deborah, that life is happening for us instead of happening to us, then that means that there was something about this part of the journey that we needed to get. Some lesson we needed to learn, some person we needed to meet or mentor or both, Some space we needed between right this moment and the accomplishment that we wanted. Maybe there is more maturity that is necessary before we get that promotion, before we open that business, before we land that client. Right? Before we make that transition in our lives that you were talking about earlier in the show, we want everything to happen now because we have been taught that the whole point of every action is the destination, is to get things done. Mhmm.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:23:43]:
I'm gonna flip that on its head. The point of life is the journey. It really is everything that happens between now and getting to that point, that end destination. Mhmm. And until we can embrace that part, we won't have all of the joy or the fun that we could out of this life. We'll always be looking for the next score, the next thing that's going to keep us hopped up and revving the goal. And therefore, on the hamster wheel that somebody else set us on because we're always trying to meet somebody else's standards and expectations.

Debra Coleman [00:24:24]:
Gosh. Truer words. Oh my goodness gracious. These are ones you tape up on your mirror every day, and they just have to, you know oh, that's so powerful. So, you know, I've heard about that. You know, it's more about the journey than the, you know, destination. But the way you phrased it, I really got a sense of, well, if you focus so much on the and the on the b, you know, and forget the middle part between a and b, Yeah. I I agree with you now.

Debra Coleman [00:24:50]:
No wonder you are left feeling empty, maybe feeling like you want more or that you FOMO, like you missed out on something. But all of that, you know, unbeknownst to you can be found in the journey, like, in the middle part. All of that can be. Yeah. Wow.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:25:05]:
Yes. It's like that gooey little Debbie snack. Yeah.

Debra Coleman [00:25:11]:
That's right. That's right. That's right. Exactly. Or the middle of the Oreo. It's like, hey. Yeah. There's 2 crunchy ends, but there's stuff in the

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:25:18]:
middle that is just as good. You know? Yes.

Debra Coleman [00:25:20]:
Yeah. I love that. Oh my goodness. Well, all of this leads us to now your book, which Live Life on Fire, which is more of like a guide, I would say, if I have permission to use that word. But would you tell us a little bit more about that?

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:25:34]:
Absolutely. So it's Live Life on Fire, the guide to the ultimate successful life full of peace, joy, and fulfillment. And I divided the book into 4 parts so that you would have the option of starting wherever you want it in the 4 and working through there. And so it's divided first into silence, and that is really taking time to go within. So disconnecting from the electronics, from people, and, honestly, sometimes from yourself so that you can just hear what spirit has to say. And it's nonjudgmental. It is just really taking it in so that you can be at peace. And I walk you through various ways you can do that, practical ways that really take into consideration the lives that we live.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:26:31]:
We're working. We have families. We have hopes, dreams, and we're active in our communities. Right? And then the second part is to breathe. Deborah, you would be amazed at the number of people who run around here holding their breath. And, you know, I went the first time someone said that to me, I was like, that's impossible. You die. But then they were like, think about how many times a day you pause and just you know, that is that is built up lack of oxygen when you breathe like that.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:27:06]:
Wow. Because you've been doing such shallow breathing. You have to take some time and just take a breath. And I guide you through taking a breath before you say something negative, before you say something that might hurt someone, including yourself because you're someone. And even just taking a breath to enjoy the sweetness of life just in that moment. Right? Mhmm. And then part 3 is meditate to really take time in your silence while you're breathing to just let thoughts flow. It is important that you do that from time to time because we constantly have these stream, these conversations with ourselves that a lot of times aren't all that supportive.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:27:53]:
Right? We think about what we should have done, should have said, where we should be in our lives. So you just let those things flow, and once they're gone, it creates space for us to create affirmations and to speak positively and lovingly over ourselves. And when we can do that, then we can do that for other people. And it really helps us to create the energy that we want when we go out into the world so that when we're meeting someone for the first time, that they are feeling so good in our presence, they want more. And that transcends to translates, excuse me, to our personal as well as our professional lives. And then part 4 is the flow. So this is the place where you trust yourself. Your intuition is thriving, and it's throbbing, and it's ready to engage and to take you to the places where you're ready to go and to prepare you for the places you want to be.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:28:56]:
This is how to be consistent, how to take your time, how to do it right, and really embrace your individual skills, gifts, and talents no matter where they take you and what they look like. This was a really impactful chapter for me or part for me to write because many of us, we have these times in our lives where we we hear voices. We hear hear clear direction on things. And one day, I was doing my prayers and meditations. I was thinking about one of my clients who has become a good friend, And I was just saying thank you. Thank you for her in my life. And and I clearly heard her mother who had been deceased 7 years say, and you better be a good friend to her. And I told my client about it, and she was not shocked at all.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:29:57]:
She was not shocked at all. As a matter of fact, what she said was, now how did she really say it? And so I started laughing because I'd only met her mother once. And, you know, when we meet our friends' parents for the first time, they're on their best behavior. So we don't see who they really are. I'd never saw miss Joyce other than the quintessential lovely lady. Right? But when she told me that she better be a good friend of her daughter, it was with all the attitude and with all of this body movement with it. Right? And so when I told my client about it, she was like, yep. That's my mama.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:30:34]:
Okay. But, Deborah, you know, what that taught me is that the only person who is shocked when your your talents, your your gifts come and you implement them in your life, your entire life is you. Because the people around you, they see the light. They see those things on you, and they are just waiting for you to engage so that they can too.

Debra Coleman [00:31:02]:
Yeah. Oh, I love that. They're waiting for you to engage so you can too. It's really all a form of self love.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:31:10]:
Absolutely.

Debra Coleman [00:31:12]:
Mhmm. Oh, wow. I love that story, though,

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:31:15]:
with you.

Debra Coleman [00:31:16]:
That that made me think, yep. She was definitely talking to you then. If you if you cosigned on that, then, yep. That's it. There you go. That's that's great, though. I love that. I think that's that's so that's just a lovely thought because, I mean, as you said, you know, you sat with it, and you let that in.

Debra Coleman [00:31:33]:
Why do you think that so many people are afraid of sitting in silence? Why do you think that for some, that is just like nails on a chalkboard?

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:31:41]:
Oh, yeah. Because we don't wanna hear what we already know. See, when we keep going, we can ignore. We can ignore the fact that we're tired. We can ignore the fact that we're unhappy in a relationship at a job, that we feel left out and passed over. We can ignore all those things because we're busy. And so we learn to to supplant our quest for joy with our constant stream of busyness. And once we sit down and it's quiet and the only person that we have is ourselves, then we have to hear it.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:32:25]:
We can't ignore it. And when we we're no longer ignoring, that means that we we have to make some choices. Either we're gonna do something or not. And not doing something is a choice too. That's a choice too. Yeah.

Debra Coleman [00:32:40]:
Doing something is a choice too. I like that. That's very, like, open and, like, permission. Like, that's okay. Yes. Oh, wow. So much good stuff here. Oh my goodness.

Debra Coleman [00:32:53]:
Well well, if the please tell us where we can find you, Lonita, to learn more because this is just life skills times a1000. I know there's others who are out there listening right now who are just like, okay. I need some more, Lanita. Where can we find you?

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:33:08]:
Well, thank you so much. So the easiest place to find me is my website, which is my name, lanitamitchellblackwell.com. And from there, we can connect by you joining my email list, following me on social, or joining me at my retreat next April, 11th through 14th in Tybee Island. Yes.

Debra Coleman [00:33:29]:
What? Oh, wow. You mean we would get you up for a whole, like, couple of days?

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:33:35]:
Yes. Yes and yes. It is the prioritize and empower you retreat where we take these concepts that we've been talking, implement them into our lives. And then after the weekend, we have 12 weeks of small group coaching to ensure that the things that we learn during the weekend stick in our real lives once we get home.

Debra Coleman [00:33:57]:
Oh, wow. That is amazing. Oh, that is so great. I love that because of the connection and the community, but then the afterwards. It's not just like, okay. Bye. Thank you. Bye.

Debra Coleman [00:34:07]:
No. It's okay. Well, we're gonna continue the conversation. We're gonna make sure to implement what we all talked about, what we learned, what we experienced. Oh, love it. Love it. I'm so excited. That is so great.

Debra Coleman [00:34:18]:
Well, I will absolutely have links to all of the ways to connect with Lanita in the show notes, and to in addition to all of your socials as well so people can connect with you that way as well. Oh, this has just been such an enlightening, but very, like I just feel warm. Like, I don't know. I just I I feel seen, but I don't mean it in, like, a sarcastic way that people say that. I just feel like Lanita gets it. You know? Yeah. Like a big hug. Starting in 20 5, 21.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:34:48]:
Oh, thank you. I'm so glad.

Debra Coleman [00:34:51]:
Yeah. You are, you you are on your right path. From that moment in your life, in your in your living room with your daughter, that we are all, actually selfishly the beneficiaries of that turning point in your life. And so I thank you for just being an advocate for us and for all of the teachings and learnings that you're providing. It's just been wonderful conversation.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:35:13]:
Thank you so much for having me and allowing me the opportunity to share this with your awesome audience.

Debra Coleman [00:35:20]:
Oh, you are more than welcome. But before I let you hop, do you have time for one more silly bonus question?

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:35:26]:
Absolutely.

Debra Coleman [00:35:27]:
Okay. As I as I hinted to Lanita before we hit the record button, this is just a something some way for us to get to know her a little bit better, pull back the curtain as if we haven't already, but, just in another way. So, miss Lanita, when life does get crazy for you as well, because you're a human being walking around the planet, right, as a busy career woman, how do you reset and rebalance? What do you do to help bring it back to center? I know you mentioned your meditation, but are there any other things or activities you like to do to kind of bring it back to ground 0 for you?

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:36:03]:
Absolutely. So one of the things that I do is I'll make a list of everything that I have going on, and and something has to go. Because if I'm feeling like I am off my square, that I'm no longer centered, that means that I'm imbalanced. I am not imbalanced, and something has to give. Wow. Mhmm.

Debra Coleman [00:36:24]:
Oh, wow. I I have that is so such a unique answer. I have not heard that ever that, okay, something is out of balance. And so to rebalance, something should go. You make a list and recognize what the okay. Okay. I may have to copy that. I like that a lot.

Debra Coleman [00:36:41]:
I'm a big list girl, so you're speaking my language now. Wow. Well, that is wonderful. Thank you for sharing that and giving us a little glimpse. We appreciate it.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:36:50]:
You're welcome.

Debra Coleman [00:36:51]:
Oh, well, thank you once again, miss Lanita. And, again, I will have links to everything, that Lanita mentioned and ways to connect with her in the show notes. So thank you so much for having a seat with us.

Lanita Mitchell Blackwell [00:37:01]:
You are welcome, and thank you.

Debra Coleman [00:37:04]:
And that's a wrap on my conversation with the inspiring miss Lanita Mitchell Blackwell. My friend, I hope this conversation has sparked some new ways to think about success and living a life that's truly aligned with who you are. Lanita's insights on intuitive intelligence and creating a life you love are ones we can all take to heart, especially as we tackle the many roles we play both at work and at home. If you'd like to learn more about Lanita, connect with her, or dive into her book, Live Life on Fire, which that is just one of many. She has several publications that are hugely successful. Be sure to check out the show notes where you'll find all the links and resources to connect with Lanita. Thank you so much for joining us today. Thank you, miss Lanita, for sharing your expertise with us.

Debra Coleman [00:37:54]:
And until next time, my friends, you know the rule. Stay safe, be well, and remember, keep having those conversations.