Mid-June Musings: Nurturing Bonds with Girl Besties

Debra Coleman [00:00:09]:
Well, hello, beautiful. And welcome back to another episode, another mini cast episode of Have A Seat Conversations with Women in the Workplace podcast. I am your host, Deb Coleman. Well, well, well, here we are. Here we are. It's mid June. Can you believe it? Just can't believe it. It's like 2024 is halfway over.

Debra Coleman [00:00:32]:
Just if I they if I start to hear Christmas music, I'm gonna just run from the room screaming. I can't. Doesn't it seem like it plays so much earlier? I swear it's like starting in August. It's insane. So, anyway, how are you this week? I hope this week is treating you well because you deserve it. And I also hope that maybe, just maybe, you're listening this relaxing poolside or beachside or couch side, because for those of us in the in the northern hemisphere anyway, the months are definitely warmer right now, and, we're enjoying summer weather. But for those of you who may not be experiencing warmer weather or what your summer is, then I still hope that this episode finds you enjoying those much deserved days off because you know what? We're halfway through the year. We need to take some time.

Debra Coleman [00:01:24]:
Take some time. Pump those breaks. Enjoy enjoy yourself. So with that being said, I just wanted to share with you, you know, this show, my my podcast Have A Seat, is primarily a interview style show. Right? Every week, I bring you amazing conversations with inspiring women who are just doing their thing out there and sharing all the things with us and it's exciting and I love it, but every once in a while I will do just this and I will hop on the mic and just talk with you just little old me. Grab the mic and just share with you, maybe workplace issues or topics or just something that happens to float across my peripheral vision in the in the weeks before this recording that I'm like I've got to grab the mic and share that. I know when we can we need to talk about it. So that is what one of these this episode is.

Debra Coleman [00:02:17]:
It's a mini cast. It's just me grabbing the mic and sharing with you. And so this week, I wanna share with you an excerpt actually, from, an author and an influencer named Amy Weatherly. I'm sure some of you are familiar with her. If not, she is everywhere. I believe she's on Insta, face Facebook and I believe Linked in as well. I threw, you know, just cruising around came across this post from her in one of her Facebook groups or in her Facebook group, and I absolutely fell in love with it. And I I knew this was something that I wanted to share with you on this show because as a podcast that's created by a woman for other women.

Debra Coleman [00:03:04]:
Right? Created by a woman for women, this passage is it just hits home. So that is all I wanna share with you today. I don't wanna say too much about it because this really is something that you need to maybe just sit with and ponder. But it's just too beautiful to keep it to myself. So I hope you don't mind this brief interruption in your in your week in this mini cast for this, passage I would love to share with you. So here we go. Alright my friend the title of this passage is sister I am with you. And again this was posted in Amy Weatherly's Facebook group and it goes like this: Maybe she is blowing you off.

Debra Coleman [00:03:49]:
Maybe she is a bad friend. Maybe she is keeping you in her back pocket for a rainy day. Maybe she's fake. Maybe she's fickle. Maybe she's pretty. Maybe she's petty or maybe she's busy. Maybe her plate is completely full. Maybe she's coping the best way she knows how.

Debra Coleman [00:04:10]:
Maybe she's stressed. Maybe she's maxed out. Maybe stuff isn't going her way and she's saving her energy. Maybe she really did miss your text. Maybe she has kids and a family and bills to pay and she still needs those 7 hours of precious sleep. Maybe she's trying her best but even at her best she's still human. Maybe she's growing up and adulting as hard as she can right now and it's still kicking her ass. Maybe she needs grace.

Debra Coleman [00:04:45]:
Maybe she needs the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she needs you to cut her some slack. Maybe she needs less pressure to be perfect. There are 1 bajillion, 1,000,000 1,000 reasons why she's not showing up exactly like you want her to right now. Don't forget to give the benefit of the doubt. Don't forget to cut her some slack. Don't forget to forgive. Don't forget.

Debra Coleman [00:05:14]:
Sometimes friendship means loving each other through the tough seasons and the rainy weather and all the ups and downs. Sometimes friendship means handing out an abundance of grace and a safe place to relax because one day soon you're gonna need to rely on it too. So beautiful is that not I just maybe you've heard that before again it's called Sister I am with you by Amy Weatherly it was posted in her Facebook group I give her full credit. I read that and it just landed. It just hit home. And I I, again, I couldn't wait to share that with you because who amongst us does not have friends either in our immediate circle right there with us or friends that live 2 states over, 3 states over, another time zone, another country, or maybe even right down the street that this absolutely applies to. I mean, it certainly applies to us. So she could very easily be you in this entire scenario, but it can also be that 1 or 2 friends of yours that just need a little, as she said, abundance of grace right now.

Debra Coleman [00:06:33]:
I know myself. I have 2 besties, Amy and Heather, shout out girlfriends. They do not live near me. One is in Washington state. One is in California. And I reside in Nevada. And, no, we don't have those, hey, get in the car and come with me to Target run type days. But I'll tell you when we text each other in our little small group chat, it's like we just left each other the other day.

Debra Coleman [00:06:58]:
We text because we heard a song that remind us that reminded us of when we were running around in our crazy twenties, like crazy women, you know, and you know how it is. You're blaring music from your, like, rundown car, you know, or a funny meme or a funny GIF or a funny TikTok or a funny post, or just something that's happened to us or kiddo pictures or just regular updates. It's just it means the world that we have kept up this way. Now have we been perfect with it? No. Certainly not. Has it gotten better these last couple of years? Yes. It has. Because I think with age comes appreciation for what you have.

Debra Coleman [00:07:38]:
And I think also with age comes an appreciation of who you call friend, of who you call friend. Even if they are not readily available, again, to hop in the car with you and go do those Walmart and Target runs, like, every other Saturday, they're still that vibe is still there. That love is still there. That support is still there. So when I read this, it just was like, whoo. Ice bucket challenge all over again. Just like, you know, just like, wow. That is a heavy hitter.

Debra Coleman [00:08:10]:
A heavy hitter. Thank you, Amy, because that is amazing, amazing words. So my challenge to you my challenge to you, my beautiful listener, is an super easy one, a super easy one. If you happen to have friends that fall into this category, you you you you know, whether they're right there with you in the same town or there are several states over several time zones over. Let's use these next couple months for those of us in the northern hemisphere. We have entered into our summer season. For those of you who aren't, whatever season this is for you, let's take the rest of June, July, and August. Let's take these next couple of months to reconnect or to affirm the connections we have with our girl besties.

Debra Coleman [00:08:58]:
Right? Maybe you have a tribe. Maybe you've got a crew, you know, and so your group chats are, like, 20 strong or maybe it's just you and another. And that's totally, awesome sauce as well. Whatever that is for you, let's take these next couple months to just reaffirm those connections and to just remember them and to just pop in to say hello simply because it's Wednesday, not because there's anything major going on, not because it's a birthday, or maybe you see something funny and you think of them like, oh my god. That totally reminds me of when here's something. Here's another challenge. Grab your phone and shoot them off a quick text saying, girl, I just heard this song. Remember when we dot.

Debra Coleman [00:09:37]:
Right? I do that quite often. My friends and I do that quite often. I do it more than they do, but we do do that. Like, I play Pandora throughout the day. I work from home, and I sometimes work in silence because sometimes I need that focus. But more often than not, I do have music playing throughout my day And I have Pandora up, and I just let it run. Right? It just shuffles the other. So oh my goodness gracious.

Debra Coleman [00:10:01]:
I will hear a song from way back in the day when we were crazy running the streets, and I will take a snapshot of it and send it on saying, girls, I just heard this song. What a way to start the day. You know? It's just something fun because why share in that memory alone? Why not take a friend along for the ride? Maybe it'll bring a smile to their face too. You don't know. Right? So that is my low key challenge for you. Listen. I am not, like, going to sit here and tell you, I know you have enough on your plate, so I'm not sitting here. You know, you need wagging my finger in your face.

Debra Coleman [00:10:33]:
Do this. No. This is a low key, easy, gentle, you know, semi serious or really, you know, very semi. It's more of a mention. Now I jokingly called it a homework assignment, but it's just a mention and maybe just a gentle reminder that you have those special friends or a special friend out there. Let's not let them forget how much we love them, how much we support them, and how much we are so grateful that they are in our lives and how blessed we are to even share the same orbit as them. Right? So that's what I plan on doing. So if you're listening, Amy and Heather, I promise to keep that going, for us.

Debra Coleman [00:11:14]:
I know you blink sometimes and it's like, oh my god, 2 weeks have gone by. And I haven't said hello. I haven't done anything. Yeah. That happens. That's cool. You know, whatever. But as long as you circle back, that's the important thing.

Debra Coleman [00:11:26]:
So that's just what I wanted to share with you guys today. I hope you appreciated that. Again, it's called Sister, I am with you by Amy Weatherly, and it's just so beautiful. I, of course, will, you know, have transcripts to this episode, on my website. So feel free to pop over there and check these words out and read them for yourself or look up Annie Weatherly on Facebook. I'm sure you will find this post. It's just beautiful or hit me up. On my website, you know, there is a contact me page.

Debra Coleman [00:11:56]:
Send me a quick email saying, Deb, can you copy paste those words? They are amazing. I didn't, you know, I wasn't able to find them or whatever, then I I happily will shoot them over to you. So if you want a little bit more of this in in its word form, let me know. I just think I just thought these words were too beautiful not to share. So from one woman to another, I hope you enjoyed this really quick mini cast episode. That's another thing I try to do with these shows is keep them on the quick side, because I know time is precious, especially now, especially now. Especially now. You know what? If you're anything like me, you guys, man, there is so much going on.

Debra Coleman [00:12:32]:
June is just like, boom. A confetti full of tasks and a confetti full of to dos, which are all good. It's all good. Right? It's not anything. I'm not complaining at all. I'm grateful to be busy and to have so much to do. But, it's certainly been a wild ride. So, I hope that if you are like me where you're, like, jumping from one thing to the next, that's awesome and wonderful.

Debra Coleman [00:12:54]:
But at the same time, let's not forget to make time for ourselves and, appreciate the quiet times. Even that if that means jumping in the car and going to the store for some fake groceries that you, you know, need for dinner tonight. Hey. If you get 5 or 10 minutes in the car alone just to think. Hey. All for it. Right? No problem. No problem.

Debra Coleman [00:13:14]:
So whatever you need to do, let's not forget to put ourselves first from time to time. Okay? More often than not, I hope. Alright. So that's all I have for you, my friends. I hope, as always, you have a wonderful week. Stay strong. Enjoy yourself. Get those PTO days in.

Debra Coleman [00:13:32]:
Take some time off to enjoy with yourself or your family or your friends, and and just be you. Be your fabulous self. So until next time, stay safe, be well, and remember, keep having those conversations.