“Be careful what you tolerate, you are teaching people how to treat you.”
I have personally lived by this credo in what feels like forever.
I remember the first time I heard that saying years ago, it was like a lightning bolt struck me, it resonated so strongly.
I think for me, in my life, at some point I got tired of thinking that it was everyone else’s fault for the way I was feeling or being treated. When I started looking into why I was feeling this way, I thought about that saying and it all just seemed to make sense. I mean think about it, you teach people how to treat you...so simple, right?
I feel most of us unknowingly allow or enable certain behaviors and/or treatment to continue, leading us to wonder why. Why are things a certain way? Why don’t we get the respect, recognition, patience, tolerance, support that seems to be so lacking?
I dare you to look inside yourself in those moments, and ask, is there something actionable that I can do to reverse this bad behavior? Am I doing something that is encouraging this behavior, even unwittingly, to continue?
Listen in as I share my thoughts on the subject, and contact me if you'd like to share your thoughts too. I welcome the opportunity to keep the conversation going!